17 years ago…

It’s four in the afternoon as I frantically tap away at my keyboard, navigating through menu after menu of soft green terminal text, searching for hidden file caches of the female flesh. Time is of the essence since I still have another hour before my mom comes home from work. And the time it takes to download an image file on my 14.4 kilobit modem takes up to 20 minutes.

At the age of fifteen, I am the only kid in my class with a personal computer. As far as nerds go, I am the king of my school, not to mention a venerable smut peddler dealing in printed porn images acquired from local Bulletin Board systems. What an age we live in, when one can spend the afternoon to download an image of a naked woman straight from your phone line…

Today…

It’s four in the afternoon, as I casually browse my favorite websites, clicking around on a cornucopia of funny cat pictures and sprawling political rants. Any information I could want is accessible in seconds with a few clicks of the mouse. Of course, this also means any type of pornography a man could ask for. As opposed to 17 years ago, the ability to access porn in both speed and quality has far surpassed what my young fifteen year old brain could have ever conceived. You kids today, you don’t know how easy you have it.

Pornography as a Drug

Think about this for a second – never in human history has pornographic sexual stimulus been so readily available and on demand that it is today. Is it any coincidence that we’ve seen the rise of an entire Seduction Industry which needs to teach the current generation of males how to simply approach a woman?!

Perhaps one of the problems that men have become so reluctant and ignorant in what should be socially common knowledge on courting women is that, as Mr. Mahr exclaims in the video above, us men are chronically lazy. This on demand readily accessible porn has taken the work out of achieving sexual stimulation to the point where pursuing real life women is a mere hassle, unworthy of our time.

As I’ve mentioned in my now infamous male masturbation article, I hypothesize that the act of excessive masturbation causes a false reward in the male brain, which thus causes him to become a beta male, complacent in the pursuit of desirable females. A hypothesis directly related to our consumption of porn and one that is now being widely discussed by a myriad of journalists and bloggers alike.

The piece that is currently making the biggest waves on the issue, from the New York Times Magazine article titled, How Porn is Affecting the Male Libido, had this to say:

Though porn research is the subject of much debate and barb-flinging…, scientists speculate that a dopamine-oxytocin combo is released in the brain during orgasm, acting as a “biochemical love potion,” as behavioral therapist Andrea Kuszewski calls it. It’s the reason after having sex with someone, you’re probably more inclined to form an emotional attachment. But you don’t have to actually have sex in order to get those neurotransmitters firing. When you watch porn, “you’re bonding with it,” Kuszewski says. “And those chemicals make you want to keep coming back to have that feeling.” Which allows men not only to get off on porn but to potentially develop a neurological attachment to it. They can, in essence, date porn.

Is it not so unbelievable that porn addiction could be looked upon the same way as nicotine, alcohol and drug addiction? After all, the artificial stimulation and subsequent ejaculation causes similar dopamine and oxytocin release as most drugs do. It’s a topic of much debate, but from my perspective, it appears that the rise of pornography and porn addiction is causing the rise of a whole generation of beta men.

Consider the following recent articles for other opinions on the topic:

• The Porn Myth by Naomi Wolf
• How Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life and Marriage by Gary Wilson and Marnia Robinson
• Humans Aren’t Rodents. Porn Isn’t Ruining Marriages by The Sexademic
• Why I Resolved to Stop Masturbating by Ferdinand Bardamu
• Men Faking Orgasms, Why Porn is a Good Thing, Porn Star Sex (NSFW) by Lance
• Your Brain On Porn Blog by Gary Wilson
• Emotional Pornography by Citizen Renegade
• The Stroke by Gone Savage

Also, even though much of what is being discussed about porn addiction is highly debated and often times proclaimed pseudo science, there is quite a bit of anecdotal evidence and loads of testimonials from those that have quit watching porn and abstained from excessive masturbation. For your convenience, here’s a few other sources to consider:

• PDF of Testimonials from the Reuniting Blog
• SoSuave thread on quitting masturbation

So what do you think?

Update April 22nd, 2012 – Here’s a great Ted Talk by Gary Wilson who runs the very informative Your Brain on Porn blog. I highly recommend watching it as it gives a better overview of the problems with porn addiction better than I have.

Inspired by a recent Art of Manliness post on various Altoids tin badassery, I decided to make my own version of the Altoids tin survival kit, except geared for those of us who dabble in the pursuit of carnal knowledge.

When I started out this project, the first thing that came to mind was to simply use the tin as a condom case, which by itself works great. It has the ability to snuggly fit up to eight condoms and is a good protective way store your prophylactics, rather than sticking them in a wallet like a sexual noob.

But then I got to thinking, why just use it as a condom case, why not add in other items that may become useful for scuttling any unforeseen bodily malfunctions while out in the field? For instance, lets say you’re out on the prowl, talking to a fly young college chick, when you let out a nasty ass fart; one so potent that it causes your prospect’s face to melt right off. We’ve all had those moments where our own bodies manage to cock block our seductive advances. Thus, I’ve included an assortment of preventative measures as seen and listed below.

Seduction Survival Kit Contents:

• One empty Altoids tin – Perhaps even save some of the Altoids themselves to use as breath mints…
• Condoms – I prefer Durex myself, but it’s obviously your choice.
• Listerine Breath Strips – Vital for quickly suppressing fowl odors emitting from your primary face hole
• Cough Drops – For slaying that frog in your throat
• Wisp Mini-Brushes – Have a small forest stuck in your grill? Head to the loo and use one of these as an ad-hoc tooth brush and/or tooth pic.
• Gas-X Thin Strips – Regretting those extra beans on your Mexican dinner date? Just pop a few of these bad boys and pucker up those ass cheeks.
• Chewable Pepto-Bismol Tablets – Really regretting that Mexican dinner? Chow down on these chewable versions of the pink stuff and literally save yourself from a shit storm.

There you have it folks, the Altoids Seduction Survival Kit. Of course, there are likely a few things that could be added but have not come to my attention, so if you can think of something that’d be useful and also fits into an Altoids tin, be sure to let me know in the comments below.

Hey everybody, we're all gonna get laid!

Though it’s a little bit late for New Year’s resolutions, I thought I might take some time and write out my personal strategery plans for the year. To put it bluntly, this post is really for my own benefit, to get my thoughts written out in a more clear and somewhat organized fashion. However, please feel free to provide feedback and constructive criticism, particularly on the direction of this here blog.

Focus on Lifestyle Improvement

First, my desire to go out “sarging” has waned considerably and I consider this a positive step. I’ve written about drinking too much in the past and there was a point were I was going out 4-5 times a week to the bars and clubs. Of course, my intent was to pick-up women, but many times it simply turned into a night of getting drunk. As much as I savored those few moments where I’ve closed a girl at a bar, the amount of time and bodily health that was sacrificed was probably not worth it. That sort of lifestyle, as fun as it can be, can not be maintained in the long run. So I’ve scaled down to just one night out per week, if at all, and making the transition to simply trying to be a seductive charming guy in general rather than making a chore of it.

Second, I’m getting pretty sick of my 9 to 5 job and have been actively using my spare time to create some new income streams which will allow me to work from almost anywhere and begin to do some real travelling. I’m 31 years old now, and if there was ever a time to get on board the wanderlust train, it’s now. I’m not getting any younger and I just noticed a single strand of gray hair the other day… wtf.

Thrid, I’m getting myself in shape. As alluded to earlier, the previous years worth of going out drinking have taken a bit of a toll on my body. Not that I’m a lard ass or anything, I just have a bit of a protruding beer belly. And to combat this, I’ve been doing Tim Ferris’ Slow Carb Diet and kettle bell/perfect ass exercise, which he outlines in his new book 4-Hour Body (I’ll be doing a book review soon). By the way, I’ve already lost 8 Ibs in the last two weeks!

Fourth, I’ve resolved to do more reading this year, at least one book per month as opposed to the endless browsing of my recent addiction called Reddit. Seriously, that site is like crack, I can’t shake it. To be fair though, there is a lot of good stuff on there, including a thriving seduction sub-reddit. Regardless, I have some good books lined up, some dealing with seduction and lifestyle topics which I’ll be writing reviews for.

Fifth, I’ll be going back and working some more on the fundamentals of seduction. This will include more focus on general body language, voice exercises, eye contact and social conversation. In addition, I plan to delve into some personal research, such as some more material that supports my male masturbation hypothesis, along with some online dating and even pheromone experiments.

State of the Blog Address

My fellow Inter-nerds, the state of the blog is weak. It’s true that my posting has been sporadic but I’m planning on getting back to a regular schedule of at least one article per week. My goal is to publish each Monday morning which gives me the weekend to do my writing. It’s not that I don’t have anything to write about, I have a loonnnng list of post topics that I constantly add to, the problem is procrastination. It seems to be a matter of sitting down and getting some momentum.

Finally, for those regular readers, I’d love to get some feedback from you on what types of articles that you like and/or don’t like. I’m really looking for ways to move forward and improve the site, so any constructive criticism would be much appreciated.

I reach into the back of my refrigerator and grab a small mysterious Tupperware container, no doubt it is leftovers from several Thanksgivings ago. I slowly crack open the lid to see a whole civilization of mold, spores and fungus. Ewww, that’s going straight into the garbage with the rest of the failed science experiments.

After a few hours of clearing old food items and scrubbing down the interior I finally have a sparkling refrigerator worthy of pimping like the video above. It looks practically new and I can’t help but stand in front of it, door fully open, wasting energy and basking in the soft light reflecting off the Corona bottles.

While many seduction gurus will have you believe that gaining confidence takes many years of trials and tribulations of self improvement, I believe that there are some short-cuts one can take to quickly hack your confidence to a higher state. One of those is cleaning your refrigerator.

Not only do I think cleaning your refrigerator will boost your confidence, but cleaning anything in your babe lair: bedroom, kitchen, living room and particularly the bathroom will work; though tidying up the whole place is optimal. All of this, including things like getting a new haircut or working on your style are all things that will help you feel good about yourself because now you are assured that things look good and are in order. This, after all, is the definition of confidence: assurance and freedom from doubt.

Of course, having a clean bachelor pad also helps to make any girl that comes over feel more comfortable in knowing that her hand won’t dissolve from some prehistoric acidic soy sauce while reaching into your refrigerator.