by Matt Savage on November 6, 2006
I recently read one of Style’s latest emails in which he suggests using or creating a fictional character to help change one’s game. The thought is that if you pretend or act as a fictional character which embodies the traits that you want to posses then you will have less approach anxiety. After all, it’s not you approaching, it is just a made up character, so because you are not putting yourself on the line then there is no reason to fear the outcome. The best part of this whole strategy is that you can pick a character who resembles a cool pick up artist!
I’ve thought about this concept the last few days and which type of character I would use. I came up with Jack Burton, played by Kurt Russell, from the classic movie, “Big Trouble in Little China.” The Jack Burton character has a number of desirable traits in that he is cocky and funny, confident, adventuresome, and most importantly, he is fearless. To me, embodying this type of attitude would be a tremendous tool for overcoming approach anxiety and stalling out of interactions. Of course, this is not for the long term. It is only to be used to help incorporate certain desirable traits into my own persona.
Just to give you a taste of his brand of attitude, here are some of my favorite Jack Burton quotes:
Just remember what ol’ Jack Burton does when the earth quakes, the poison arrows fall from the sky, and the pillars of Heaven shake. Yeah, Jack Burton just looks that big old storm right in the eye and says, “Give me your best shot. I can take it.”
This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I’m talkin’ to whoever’s out there.
You know what Jack Burton always says… what the hell?
I feel good, and I’m not scared at all. I just feel kind of… kind of invincible… Is it getting hot in here, or is it just me?
Enjoy.
by Matt Savage on October 27, 2006
At some point last week I had caught a bad cold and ended up waking up on Tuesday feeling like complete ass. Normally, I would just suck it up and go to work but this particular morning the cold was just too much for me to handle. I called in sick.
After waking up around noon, I found myself just moping around the house not really doing anything. I decided to just watch TV in my bed and stay rested. It was a good plan but what ended up happening I wouldn’t really consider resting.
So what does I guy do when he is just lying in bed all day long, bored out of his mind? I’m not going to lie, it was a complete wank-a-thon. I must have whacked off about five times by the end of the night. It was kind of ridiculous and completely excessive. So, why punch the clown this much? Because I could, that’s why.
Now, five times in one day is a lot but to be honest I typically masturbate at least once a day, usually twice, once in the morning and once before going to sleep. It has actually become quite a bad habit. Not that I think there is anything wrong with masturbation in general, it is just that I’m sure it is lowering my desire to meet and attract women.
I need to change my habits from wanking to going out and work on becoming a pick up artist. If I restrict myself to only releasing my baby batter during sex with women and not by means of polishing the bishop then it should motivate me more to pursue women…right?
So the goal for the next month, lets say, starting tomorrow and going through the end of November is: No More Punching the Clown! It’s time to let my natural caveman come out.
I’ll keep y’all posted on how it goes. Who knows, the Halloween festivities are coming up in two days, and with any luck the “no wanking” policy won’t even matter:)
I recently read one of Style’s latest emails in which he suggests using or creating a fictional character to help change one’s game. The thought is that if you pretend or act as a fictional character which embodies the traits that you want to posses then you will have less approach anxiety. After all, it’s not you approaching, it is just a made up character, so because you are not putting yourself on the line then there is no reason to fear the outcome. The best part of this whole strategy is that you can pick a character who resembles a cool pick up artist!
