Let’s play a game.
The above triangle represents a spin-off of the classic Project Triangle used in engineering and business circles in which one is forced to prioritize certain qualities of a “project” at the expense of another. The difference here is we are substituting those qualities for that of desirable traits in a long-term mate.
For the purposes of this experiment, let me define the above qualities for clarity sake and to make things a little more interesting:
For this trait we assume that your mate has a high I.Q., the ability to have great conversation and a strong witty humor. Since they are intelligent we also assume that they have the ability to get a decent job and thus are financially stable, making well over $100,000 a year or is highly regarded/influential in whatever field they excel.
If you sacrifice this option your mate will have annoyingly low intelligence and will be lower-middle class in income level.
If we were superficial enough to rate your mate on a 1-10 scale they would be an 8 or 9. Thus for women, the guy would be in good shape, not fat, have a chiseled chest, nice butt and masculine good looks. For guys, your woman would be thin, in good shape, attractive, with whatever preferred physical qualities that you desire, like big breasts, firm ass, etc.
Sacrificing this option results in your mate being a 6 or less on your attraction scale, where the person is generally out of shape and does not pay much attention to how they look. For guys, this could mean your girl being overweight and/or ugly. For girls, this could result in your guy being shorter than you and/or overweight.
This option refers to how down to earth your mate is, having the ability to be calm and willing to work things out rationally during tough times in a relationship. Also, they have unconditional love for you, will always be faithful and stick by your side through thick and thin.
By sacrificing this option, your mate has some minor psychological issues in which they tend to be irrational at times. For guys, your woman will throw temper-tantrums from time to time, may be argumentative and have self-esteem issues. For girls, your guy is either too masculine as in having anger management/control issues or is insecure with himself with some tendencies to let people walk all over him. Both genders would have a 50% probability of being unfaithful.
Let the Games Begin
Which two qualities do you choose? Which one do you sacrifice? Put your answer in the survey below and please explain your game theory and analysis in the comments.
Update: You can view the results of the survey in the follow up post, Preferred Signs of Attraction in Men and Women.
Thanks to Kiss and Blog for bringing this to my attention.
Also, it’d be cool to get as much data input on this as possible from both men and women, so please feel free to spread the word.