She’s a lone wolf. She’s sitting there on the bar-stool, by herself, just waiting for someone to talk to her. I’m standing five feet from her with my back against the bar. My body language is superb and I’m sure she notices. I catch her glancing over from the corner of my eye.
Lately, I’ve been focusing and practicing a lot on body language. After reading the book, The Definitive Book of Body Language
I’m leaned back in the cowboy stance. This consists of having my legs spread far apart, shoulders relaxed and thumbs tucked into the front pockets with the palms pointing at my crotch. Everything about my body screams sexual confidence.
I slowly turn my head and look at her. She looks over and we lock eyes. I refuse to be the first one to break off. I hold the gaze. She’s not looking away, she’s just sitting there staring back at me. It’s a showdown.
We are gazing at each other for an eternity when finally I give her a little smile. She returns the gesture and is the first to speak.
“You must be the happiest guy on earth.”
“Funny, that’s what it says on my business card” I reply
“What’s your name?” she asks
“Matt, and you?” I say as I walk over to her.
She tells me her name and I shake her hand while still gazing into her eyes. I’m in her comfort zone now. She does a hair toss and leans her head to the side exposing her neck to me. This is a sign of attraction and submission. I engage in kino, gently touching her on the upper and lower arm.
We are having a conversation but I have no clue what we are talking about. It doesn’t even matter anymore. I’ve been staring into her pupils for the longest time now, not once have I looked away. We both know what is going down.
“Um, so do you live around here?” she asks.
“Yea just down the street.” I say with a little smirk
“You want to see it? It’s a nice little place.”
“Umm, I don’t think I should.” she says
“Oh, I don’t think you should either. That’s why I’m just going to show you this one thing and then kick you right out.” I reply
“I want to but I really can’t. I have to meet my boyfriend soon.” she says
Arrrggghhhh. This is killing me. This is where my game falls apart. I don’t know what to do now.
“Huh” I say in confusion
“Sorry, but I really need to get going now. It was really great meeting you though.” She says.
Just like that, she’s out the door and into a cab.
Though I didn’t close the deal, I am chalking this encounter up to a major success. The use of eye contact in building attraction and rapport was amazing.
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That rocks! She was totally feeling you because of your strong eye contact!
I don’t know anything about boyfriend destroyers or routines, the only cool thing I’ve come across is using her boyfriend as a sexual barrier and play it like the two of you will have secret trysts when she isn’t with him. Just making it a fun interaction.
I think them having a boyfriend doesn’t stop the interaction, it just changes the end game. You still talk, flirt and kino, but at the end you just think about what went well and what can be improved upon.
Great advice on the eye contact.
I’m no expert, but here’s my analysis.
It sounds like the attraction was there, but not the comfort. It seems like she was actually trying to build comfort (by asking your name and where you lived), but maybe you jumped the gun by inviting her back so quickly. Next time try telling a story or two, and make the last one lead into something that has to do with your house. Then offer to show her that thing (BE SPECIFIC).
If you just say you want to show her “something” she’s going to assume it’s sex and nothing more.
Noah,
I do know of one boyfriend destroyer but I didn’t use it. It basically consists of putting the boyfriend on a pedestal and re-framing him into a sappy nice guy while you set the frame as being the bad boy, which is much more sexually attractive than the “nice guy” frame. Not sure why I didn’t use this, but I’m guessing morality might have had something to do with it. I’m still not sure where I stand on using “boyfriend destroyers”, I guess it depends on the situation.
Gil,
There was definitely attraction and you could be on to something with the comfort. Although, there was a brief phase of comfort type conversation so I’m not too sure that was the real problem. You have to keep in mind that even though the post is short, the whole interaction was about an hour long.
I think you’re more on point with where I actually invited her back. I probably needed to give her a better excuse rather than just flat out saying “come back to my place.”
The other thing about this interaction was that it was basically my experiment with more direct type of game. I’ve been reading some Gunwitch material and my goal with this to really come off as a sexual animal:)
Thanks for the feedback guys, it is always much appreciated!
-Matt
When a girl says ‘I have a BF’ I have found it fund to say ‘I think you should have 2 boyfriends’ or ‘Do you want 2 boyfriends’. I think this a Tyler Durden line. Either way I have field tested it. It keeps the sexual tension high and keeps you in control. I personally dont really want to hook up with a girl thats taken myself but this line allows the conversation to roll along without necessarily taking it down a notch. Try it next time. Its fun to see the reactions!
G
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G,
Haha, I love those lines. I can see where it can either be a real playful thing to say or can be a means of keeping the sexual energy going. I’ll have to try it next time, even if it is just to see their reactions:) Thanks.
Matt
Cowboy stance? I am dying laughing at that. No really, I think I just broke something internal.
I love your blog. It’s like eavesdropping on the mens room. Like you should REALLY be listening but you can’t help it. But what the hell, I look in people’s medicine cabinets…
I need to get that book!
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I agree with 2Gil. you might have jumped the gun while she was still qualifying you in her head as “not-a-creep”
as far as a boy friend technique goes, you could use one of David D’s quotes.
if a girl says, “i have a boyfriend” and her tone is to disinterest you, you can reply, “good, that’s great. it sounds like an accomplishment for you. you know, half the world has a bf, and they don’t feel like it’s something to tell strangers about.”
then depending on how her reaction is, you could follow it with, “so what do you got going for you -other than a bf?
and i’m sure you can apply body language to match.
Outstanding results! Congrats on a masterful pickup; maximum results with minimal effort. Very nice.
What if you pushed her away, like this from David D: “You know, we men aren’t just women’s sexual playthings. I have a mind, and feelings, too. No way that I’m showing you my place tonight. I’m not that easy.”
Perhaps turning the frame around might have pulled her closer?
Since you were there and know what went down, if you’ll forgive the attempt at a vicarious learning experience, how do you think that might have affected the outcome?
at the time of the handshake i have found that if you extend your hand and tilt your head back while you stare down your nose sorta at her , prompting her to give her name first, then not telling your name till she ask is a good move. if she asks then you have your first ioi
Loving the stories on this site. You should write an article about playing guitar = easy way to pick up chicks.
Jeff,
Glad you like the stories. Regarding the guitar playing comment, I totally agree, sometimes I think it’d be easier to give up this whole seduction thing and just join a band. I’m actually right in the middle of writing a post about the new Ukulele I just purchase and though it’s not quite a guitar, I’m hoping it’ll somehow help with the chick getting process. Thanks for stopping by.
Or you could have kept at it…….your game really ended at “Huh.” I think you shouldn’t have let it faze you but then again you said you’re still questioning the morality of boyfriend destroyers. My personal philosophy? If there’s no ring on the finger and I don’t know the guy….the ball is live, the play is in motion and the game is on. If there’s a ring on the finger or I know the guy…the ball is dead, the play is over and the game is done.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mzUH_prqLHE
OK, so I can’t sleep and I’m reading up on this PUA stuff.
This is a prime example of how women KNOW even before you use your PUA strategies of whether you are a yes or a no. If you were a “yes” it dwouldn’t matter if she has a boyfriend.
Avalon,
yes - but she may say it for various reasons, including as a “shit test” to see how persistent he is, how much he doesn’t care about her boyfriend because she’s so attractive to him, and how much he really knows about women. I’ve had women compliment me later on not ending a conversation/seduction after they told me about their alleged boyfriends. Later some said they use the boyfriend test on occasion to weed out the “players who really don’t know what they’re doing”.
Our blog covered the flip side of this phenomenon - when the girl is shooting you the heavy eye contact aka eye rape
check it out:
http://iwingman.blogspot.com/2007/10/eye-rape.html