“Wow, what happened to this place? I don’t even recognize any of these people tonight?” I say to SuperCop
“Yea, it’s like this every year during this time. A whole new group of people moving into the neighborhood. They always swarm the local bars their first night in town. You know, to meet the neighbors, check out the night life, all that.” he says.
“Now that you mention it, I have noticed a lot of new cute girls walking around lately. Hmmm, interesting.” I say
“Yep. Fresh meat.” SuperCop says with a devilish grin
As I glance around the crowded bar I begin catching the eyes of several lovely ladies. There is a cute little brunette who smiles at me from across the room. Across from me is a busty blond who holds eye contact with me for a good 30 seconds. Sitting on two stools next to us are two attractive women playing cards. I catch them looking over at us, stealing glances, trying to get our attention.
Just as I’m thinking of a way to approach I feel a sharp jab to my ribs.
“Ouch! What the fuck man.” I shout at SuperCop
“Hey, how about you stop being a pussy, stop staring at those girls and do something.” says SuperCop
“Humpf! Well why don’t you? I don’t see you doing anything?” I say
“I have a girlfriend. Besides your the one always talking about how you can pick up all these chicks. Why don’t you prove it.” he says.
Ah shit. He has a point. I’m getting defensive now and there is no need for that. It is just an excuse not to approach. Now I’m being called out on it. Actually, it is good motivation to make me do it. I can’t think of anything to open with. Whatever, just go in and make it happen. I take a deep breath. One, two, three.
I scoot up next to the red headed girl closest to me and say, “So who’s winning?”
They both turn to me. I have their attention now.
“Uh, I’m not sure, we kind of lost track.” says Red in an adorable Irish accent
“Well, if you had to make a guess, who would you say won the most rounds?”
The cute little blond girl speaks up now. She reminds me of Natalie Dormer from the show The Tudors.
“I’d say I’m definitely winning” says Natalie
“Ah I see. Well, that’s probably because you are cheating.” I say with a grin
“What?!”
“Oh come on now. Don’t deny it. I see you over there with cards up your sleeves.”
“Oh my god. You’re cheating?!” says Red.
The conversation continues into a thread of playful banter and accusations. It’s fun and lively.
I continue to flirt with Red and Natalie throughout the night. Eventually, SuperCop and I sit down with them and join in their game of Go Fish! I tell you, nothing brings out the competitive spirit like beer and a rousing game of Go Fish.
Later in the night I begin escalating kino with Red as we begin to develop rapport. I gently touch the back of her arms and shoulder. We end up sitting closer and closer so that our legs are touching. Her body language is wide open and reveals that she is comfortable around me. She’s smiling and giving me that strong seductive gaze. It’s on, but what next? Go for the kiss? Go for the number? Extract to seduction location?
As I ponder my next move, Bartender Bob walks over and stares down at me.
“Hey Bob, what’s happening?” I ask
“Savage, stop hitting on my sister!” he says jokingly
“Oh shit. This is your sister. Oh man, I’m sorry, she was just too cute, I couldn’t resist.”
Bartender Bob and I joke around like this for awhile. He pretends like he is going to beat me up and protect his sister. It’s funny but it totally ruins the rapport with Red. It’s enough of a distraction that her and Natalie end up leaving before I can close.
“Hey Matt, we are heading out but it was nice playing cards with you.” says Red
“Yea it was fun. I’m sure I’ll see you guys around here again though, right?”
“Oh yea, definitely. Have a good night.”
I say my goodbyes and give each of the girls a kiss on the cheek before they head out the door.
It was a solid interaction. I opened, attracted and developed rapport. Still need to work on closing though. I’m sure I’ll see these girls again so hopefully will have a second chance.
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Ok, just a couple of things. Did you attempt to do any qualifying? That’s vital.
You could’ve attempted isolating her (“Going to get a drink, come with me to the bar and protect me from crazy drunk women. You be my bodyguard.”) then use any of the standard kiss close techniques.
What I do notice from your reports, Matt, is that you build attraction and start on rapport, you get them thinking you’re a good guy—and then you leave it at that. Here’s what I’d suggest you try to incorporate.
–Kino. Use it. Getting them used to your touch. Escalating slightly. Start with fist-pounds and high fives, one-arm quick hugs when she does something worth rewarding, which brings me to the next..
–Qualify. Nuff said.
–Work on TIMEBRIDGING. Within one of your routines you should be talking about something fun you’re going to be doing that week, and if she expresses interest, you invite her. THEN number close–because you have a reason for the number.
–If you don’t timebridge, you should number close with the TMM standard–”It’s fun talking to you….how could we continue this conversation?” Then SHE will suggest trading numbers.
Trying working these things in, and see what your results are. Good luck.
Dude, you are killing me!! Seriously man!! Everytime I read your reports, I go “Awesome! Awesome! Damn, he missed her again!”
If I were you, I wouldn’t contemplate my next move, I’d just do something and see if it worked. And if it failed, then try something differently next time.
“Go out on a limb, or two, or twelve and you’ll fall and it’ll hurt, but the harder you fall the higher you’ll rise. The louder you fail, the clearer your future becomes. Failure is a gift, welcome it.”
Don’t think too much. Act, and then reflect on the interaction for ways to improve.
Damn Matt…it sounds like you were almost there on this one. Looks like you were kind of c-blocked by the bartender!
Matt:
Great story and methods. Close, Close, Close!
Thanks for the comment.
We are going to work on picking up other customers next time. Our last session was focused solely on retail staff. It builds credibility when you take girls in the stores in which the staff know you. Good starting point for me as I normally keep to myself when shopping.
Best
Smoothlatinkid,
No, I didn’t really qualify her at all which is probably one of the reasons this set failed. Also, good point on using the timebridge, as it is something I haven’t been doing. I’ll add this to the list of things I need to improve. Thanks for the feedback!
Noah,
Your right, I’m definitely over thinking sometimes and need to work on just taking action.
Undergroundattraction,
I was thinking that the bartender did cock block in a way, but really this is just an excuse for not performing up to PUA standards. Any good PUA would be able to counter this obstacle fairly easily. It is just something that needs to ironed out in my game.
Collin,
Thanks. I defininitly have closing on the to-do list. This is the next big thing I need to master.
What his sister isn’t allowed to date? What gives?
Definitely use the brother being the bartender at the bar she’s at to poke a little fun at her and subtly suggest that she thought she needed a chaperone. She’d probably get a little riled and this would be a great time to get her to at least go outside and chat privately with you (after all, the brother’s chained to the bar, right?). I have to say that, typical to womankind, I deny the effectiveness of many pick-up techniques – however, this would definitely work on me (unless there was another circumstance you weren’t aware of – i.e., the friend spotted an ex there and she’d feel bad leaving her alone to fend for herself).