August 2007

Ever wonder why the world’s greatest seducers are so fond of tight pants? It is not because they look particularly good or are even remotely comfortable. The real reason is to make the ass look tight. It’s true, women love a tight little ass. In fact, 40% of women are most attracted to the buttocks, much more than any other part of the male body. So, wearing pants that allow you to show off your ass makes sense as a way to be more attractive.

Pick up Artist Tested, Girl Approved

When I first discovered and started reading about the seduction community one of the first concepts I picked up on was the use of tight fitting pants. Pick-up artists such as Mystery and Neil Strauss were constantly outfitting there students in skin tight pants. We even see a great example of this in the second episode of VH1’s The Pick Up Artist reality show where each contestant is shown coming out of a dressing room in the tightest pants he’s ever worn in their lives. [click to continue...]

I keep track of A LOT of various seduction, pick-up artist, sex and dating blogs. Usually once a week there will be several blog posts that really stick out and always end up bookmarking them for later reference. I thought it might be a good idea to start sharing these really great posts every Sunday. Really, these are worth looking at. Enjoy.

• Where is My Spaghetti Bo-lo-knees?? - Tyler Durden of Real Social Dynamics writes and amazing post about living in the moment and criticizes the fast paced, always moving culture of America. Very thought provoking.
• Asking 50 Girls, “How about a fuck?” - This is an older post by V but just had to include it because it is simply awesome. The guy has some major balls to pull this thing off. Mad respect.
• Kiss Tests - Captain Jack, the master of same night lays, talks about various different kiss tests and how to implement them.
• Curse of the Alpha Male - Psycologist Annie Dennison discusses the issues with alpha males from a female perspective and whether it is something that should be encouraged or not.

It has been one year since I first started this blog and my journey to becoming a seduction artist. Since that time I have grown and learned a great deal. I have overcome many limiting beliefs which had prevented me from meeting and attracting beautiful women. I have had some great successes. I have also had some spectacular failures. Yet I still endure, improving myself one step and one day at a time. Lets take a look at some of the highlights from the past year:

• My first blog post that ignited the fire within. It took a lot of balls for me to write this post because 1) I was exposing myself to the public eye and 2) I told the truth about myself and that scared the shit out of me. Sometimes we hide the truth from ourselves and never realize that we need to change. We go through life living in a false reality thinking that we are fine and everything else is what’s fucked up. If you want great things it must first come from within.
• In the fall of 2006 I began approaching more women. Most of the time I would crash and burn or simply eject from the set too early. I did have a few good victories though. This one night was where I really began developing my seductive dance technique and my infamous Eskimo Kiss Close. Also, in this poetic field report I have another night which involves my seductive dancing and was a major boost to my confidence.
• I came to the realization that when I go out I drink too much and this was one of the major factors that was killing my game. From this point on I began drinking much less and enjoying the company of people more. When you are socializing and talking to people then you aren’t drinking.
• I lost my virginity after 27 years one night in November 2006. I have mixed feelings about that night but I think it was necessary just to get that first sexual experience out of the way.
• In December ‘06 I made a mission to do 100 cold approaches for the month. I called it the December Blitz and the purpose was to help get over my approach anxiety which was still plaguing me at the time. I only made it to 43 approaches by the end of the month but it was still a big accomplishment and had approached more women in that one month than I had in the previous year!
• In the first months of 2007 I began making a lot of rapid progress in not only opening women but creating attraction. My seductive dance skills further developed and helped me to kiss more girls in the last year than my entire life. I even had a few more intimate encounters here and here.
• There were also some adventurous nights which ended up becoming great DHV (demonstrations of higher value) stories.
• Recently, within the last several months, I’ve been really exploring what it is I want to do with my life and what is my passion. In the end the real attraction is leading a passionate life.
• There has been a lot of time put into learning the skills of seduction which you can read more about in the archives. There were even more approaches and social engagements that never even made it into this blog.

After reviewing the last year, it is now time to set my sites on some new goals and further progress my seduction skills. Here are some things I will be working on:

• Closing and Day 2s: There has been a pattern in many of my field reports over the last six months. Most of them show that I have been successful at creating attraction and rapport but have a very low closing rate. I am not able to develop these interactions beyond the first meeting. I will be working on getting more phone numbers after meeting women and then following up to get more day 2s.
• Seduction Community: Until now, I’ve been teaching myself the pick-up arts based on what I’ve read in books and on the internet then applying it in the field. One problem with this type of learning is that it is slow and difficult without being around other more experienced people. I’ll probably contact my local seduction lair within the next month and really become part of the community in hopes to not only learn from but help support other aspiring men.
• The Tango de la Muerte: One of my big attraction builders has been the way that I dance with women. I know that once I can get them on the floor and take control of their movement I can easily escalate to more physical intimacy. I’d really like to refine this skill and perhaps develop my own method of seduction based on dancing. Every great pick-up artist has their own style and niche, perhaps this will be mine.
• Living Passionately: I still do not have a clear picture of what my passion is but I do have it narrowed down to a few things. I will continue exploring this area of my life and focus on living the life I want to live into.

So there is my one year progress report. For those readers who have been with me since the beginning, I give you my many thanks for your support. I’ve received many encouraging comments and emails. For those people who are just joining the adventure, please don’t hesitate to leave your feedback or ask questions.

Also, don’t forget to subscribe so that you don’t miss out on any crazy adventures in the upcoming year.

Sincerely yours,

Matt Savage

Flirting with Bartender Betty

Talking to Wingman Stick and SuperCop, I turn to the bar to order another round. I catch the eye of Bartender Betty, a cute young girl who just recently started working at the local pub. She’s so peppy and happy all the time, I can’t help be incredibly attracted to her. We have a good vibe whenever we chat. I’ve been telling her stories of my latest adventures. I think she’s intrigued and I definitely need to ask her out. The problem is how do I do that? I’ve never asked a bartender out before. Perhaps I’m over thinking this whole thing, perhaps I just need to straight out ask. Ok, next time I see her I’m taking the next step, whatever the outcome.

Drunken Cougar Attack

Leaving the pub on that same night. I’m chatting with a few women outside when another hot older women comes up behind me and starts groping me. I’m guessing she saw me in action earlier and was attracted.

She is putting her hand inside my shirt and feeling my abs. She keeps trying to whisper something in my ear but I can’t make out the words. I can smell booze on her breath. She’s polluted. Though it’d be fairly easy to pull this girl back to my place, it’d be totally wrong. I’m sorry, but seducing a sloppy drunk ass woman is not a sound seduction strategy not to mention the immorality of the whole thing. It is nice to know that I did somehow create a lot of attraction in this women for whatever that’s worth.

Rapunzel, Rapunzel, let down your hair

Watching a live band in a small music club. There is a beautiful woman standing in front of me. She has the longest curly auburn hair I’ve ever seen. It goes all the way down to her perfect ass.

She turns around for a quick second and I am able to catch her eyes. With one quick smile and a seductive gaze she comes over to us. Wingman Stick jumps right in and asks some question about the band which she is more than delighted to talk about. I can barely get a word in. Eventually she goes back to watching the band, but every few minutes she looks over smiles at me.

At the end of the show, she begins walking past me while gazing into my eyes. Just as she walks by I hold my hand out. She gently places her hand on top of mine as are fingers slowly caress each others palms during the brief encounter. She continues walking away and is headed towards the band members. My two wingmen are stunned.

“Dude, GO GET HER!” one says

Ack! I know it looks weak to chase after a girl but shit, I had to do it.

I approach her while she is talking to the lead singer of the band. Oh man, how the hell am I supposed to compete with this guy. My strategy is to open the guy first, ignore the target, be-friend the obstacle and then somehow isolate Rapunzel (standard pick-up artist strategy).

“Oh hey man, that was a great show” I say

I have a quick conversation with the band leader. He’s a cool guy but it was very clear that he also wanted Rapunzel. I turn to her in an attempt to isolate.

“Hey, I saved a dance for you, lets go” I tell her as I hold out my hand.

“Ummm, no thanks. I’m going to stay here.” she replies

“Alright, good talking to you guys” I say, ejecting from the set.

I probably could have handled that better. Doh!