by Matt Savage on April 18, 2007
The past two to three weeks have been simply ridiculous. Not in a good way either. For some reason my life operates in cycles. There are two main cycles: the extreme busy insane cycle and the slow “I’m bored” cycle. Each one lasts about three months and alternates from busy to slow. It’s like every aspect of my life is conspiring against me. Everything either happens all at once or not at all.
The slow cycles aren’t that bad because…well…they’re slow. I don’t have to be stressed out about meeting deadlines at work, writing papers for school and dealing with family issues. Not to mention there is more time to meet women.
The fast cycles on the other hand are upon me and it sucks. I barely have time to write this post let alone think about seduction. It seems like I am being pushed to some sort of breaking point in which I’ll have to make some decision about where I want my life to be right now. Not in the distant future. There will be no setting goals or making plans. Just change.
Despite this frustrating cycle, I have still been able to fit in a couple of nights over the last three weeks to at least relax and flirt with some girls. I have some minor developments to report but will post those later in the week if I have time. Right now I just need to vent.
ARRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!
That is all.
by Matt Savage on April 4, 2007
There is a common piece of advice in the seduction community that is often given to newbies. It is called “getting out of your comfort zone.” This is often used in terms of overcoming approach anxiety. Basically, your comfort zone refers to doing things that you are only comfortable doing. An example of this is going out to a bar and only socializing with your friends rather than meeting new friends.
So, to get out of your comfort zone, you need to do things that you are not comfortable with. The strategy behind this is that if you get out of your comfort zone enough times, you will get used to it, and thus will become comfortable with it. The idea is to be constantly expanding your comfort zone by doing things outside of the zone. Makes sense, right?
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about a subset of this topic. I call it “getting out of your comfort location.” We all have place we go that make us feel safe, whether it be a certain bar, a restaurant, your home, the mall, or whatever your favorite place to hang out is. This place is your comfort location. If you’ve read my blog before then you won’t be surprised that my comfort location is the Local Pub.
I love my local pub. I know all of the bar staff, it’s relaxing, and I never have a problem socializing or meeting people there. The problem is that when I get into the habit of going to the pub all the time, I am putting a lot of limits on myself. Limits are not good. I want to go beyond the limits. I want to be able to walk into ANY place, recognize opportunities, and make the best of ALL situations. The only way to accomplish this is to always be going to new places, trying new things and meeting new people.
A good example of this was when I went to Goth Night. This was something that was way outside of my comfort zone. Goth night was very bizarre at first but once we settled in and began talking with people it was no longer an uncomfortable situation. And most importantly, I was introduced to a whole new group of attractive women!
I’ve become a bit lazy lately because I haven’t been getting out of my comfort location enough. I need to start doing more things than just going to the local pub. Perhaps I’ll start traveling to different neighborhoods or going to see different kinds of shows. I live in a big city, so the possibilities are endless really.
So, stay tuned for some new adventures in seduction.
The past two to three weeks have been simply ridiculous. Not in a good way either. For some reason my life operates in cycles. There are two main cycles: the extreme busy insane cycle and the slow “I’m bored” cycle. Each one lasts about three months and alternates from busy to slow. It’s like every aspect of my life is conspiring against me. Everything either happens all at once or not at all.
