I’m sitting down at lunch eating my bowl of soup while reading the paper, when in walks a beautiful young woman. She reminds me of a younger Eva Mendes. She is stunning.
She sits down at the table next to me. I continue reading my paper while glancing at her every now and then. I begin to notice her glancing in my direction. I should say something.
She glances over again. Is she looking at me? What else could she be looking at? I’m the only one sitting on this side of her. Maybe she is attracted to me. Maybe she wants me to talk to her. I really should talk to her.
I continue reading my newspaper. I am not sure what I am thinking. What do I have to lose. This whole situation is the reason why I study seduction in the first place. After all, what good is it to call myself a seduction artist when I can’t even talk to a beautiful woman who keeps looking at me. I’m going to say something. I’m going to talk to her right now.
I turn my head towards her. She looks over at me and smiles. My mouth drops open as I am about to speak. Nothing comes out.
She’s still looking at me, waiting. My mind is blank. Somehow I’ve forgotten the concept of language. I close my mouth and just smile back, as I turn my head back towards the newspaper.
I can feel her disappointment. I can feel my disappointment. All I had to do was say something, say anything. It would have been better than nothing. I know better than this. It is time for another change in my game.
From this day forth I will make it my goal to talk to one new woman each day. I don’t have to get into a long involved conversation with them, I just need to say something; I just need to anything!
The time and place for seduction is not two nights a week at some bar or club. The time for seduction is ANY TIME. The place for seduction is EVERYWHERE.
I finish my soup and get up to leave. As I’m exiting the store, another young woman is walking in. I stop and hold the door for her.
As she walks in I say, “Hi.”
“Hi.” she replies with a smile.
I continue on back to work feeling better already.
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Hey Matt,
Ugh.
Small talk is key,
Ana
Look for some thing to comment on… a book, a ring, the color of her shirt and how it compliments her eyes, hell even comment on the weather…most of all just be you.
So many PUA are so enthralled with working mad tight game ALL the time. It ain’t about running the same dialouges over and over again, unless that’s what you want. It’s all about just being comfortable talking with people in general. The guy on the subway, the lady in the park, anyone. Then the suave demeanor will follow.
Big-C,
I absolutely agree. I wasn’t implying in my post that I’d be using pre-pared openers or running routines on women all the time. I just want to have the balls to talk to anywoman anytime regardless of what I say. As opposed to just sitting there staring and wondering if there could’ve been more.
-Matt
You’re aware of it, and that makes all the difference.
The next time you see a girl so beautiful you forget what to say, try this.
“I. Um. I forgot what I was gonna say. Hi.”
I’ve been doing this a LOT lately as I’m getting less smooth and more real… and damn, if you feel it, it’s the highest compliment you can pay to a girl to just look in her eyes and NOT have any smooth lines ready.
That’s the real movie moment. No words at all. Just look.
Your balls are growing… don’t worry.
Sean,
Great advice as always. I love how you simplify the whole process of meeting women. It’s really just about getting that one little “hi” in there to get the ball rolling.
Thanks for chiming in.
-Matt
Hey,
I have the same goal as you, since a week and a half. I’ve been successful at meeting one person a day since then, (everyday but 2 days. Some days I even met more than one person)
One thing that helps me : the 3 SECONDS RULE. just DON’T wait. It is much much easier. It is such a famous rule that we don’t think about it. But focus on it, it does help.
Dan,
Yes, the 3 second rule is something that a lot of newbie pick-up artist take for granted. It really is a great concept for getting through approach anxiety. I’ll have to remember to make use of it.
-Matt
I’ve been on both sides of that coin.
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