A new prospect has emerged. She is remarkably similar looking to Dido. She has that sexy girl next door look and a fun personalty.
We’ve known each other for five years now. She is part of my social circle. I’ve always had a bit of a thing for her. I wouldn’t call it a oneitis but more of a long term romantic tension. We’ve always been flirty with each other but within the last several weeks things seem to be more flirtatious than ever.
Last night, I went out with some old friends, one of them being Dido Girl. We met up at a bar across town and began our usual fun party vibe.
Later in the night, I found myself separated from the group with Dido Girl. We were at the end of the bar. She was seated. I was standing next to her. We talked for what seemed to be ages. The words just flowed out of our mouths like water from a faucet.
I started noticing the signals. She began to show her indicators of interest. First was the batting of eyelashes, the playing of the hair, and the dilated pupils. Then began the playful touching. A touch on the arm here, a tap on the leg there. All the signs were clear as day, I just needed to make one move. I just needed to kiss her.
I didn’t do it. I started to think too much. I went from being in a natural state to being stuck in my own head. Alas, another perfect moment squandered, another woman left un-kissed, and another man struggling with regret.
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Matt,
You’re killing me.
Ana
aaawww, we have a word for you guys… we call it sweet.
sometimes restraint will get you more than you ever considered… next time be confident and do what feels right….stop thinking so much… AND DO GUYS REALLY THINK…. OH SHE TOUCHED ME I CAN MOVE IN NOW???????
From one PUA to another:
Keep the energy level high with Dido Girl and she will be yours…Next time you’re out with her and things get playful and flirty, tell her that you want to kiss her. If she responsds positively, then go for it. If she gives you a weird look, then tap her on the shoulder and say “just kidding”. IMHO the thing to do is to keep it light and playful!
Cheers,
The Saint
One thing to remember is that if you want to gain a lover you have to risk losing a friend
The Saint (again)
Man I can so identify with what you wrote.
I am just discovering the community and the art of seduction. I’ve first read DDeAngelo’s book about 2 month ago and since then, I had so many occasions to kiss girls.
I blew them all just like you did.
This is a learning process, I am going to make it whatever it takes.
(obviously you are more advanced than me in the skills of seduction and I have no doubt you will increase your rates of succes)
Oooooo, sir.
You should have kissed her.
‘Specially when she’s doing all but saying the words.
Was the timing off? Like, with all of your friends there, was it just not the right time?
Maybe you two should have a one-on-one night out. Then make your move.
Ana,
Haha, don’t fret, we’ll get through this one. I swear!
Mrs. Zigzagman,
I hope you’re right about the restraint thing, I guess we’ll find out if it’ll reap the benefits. Believe it or not, it’s not that uncommon for guys to overthink these types of situations. Unfortunately, it hurts us more than it helps.
Saint,
Good advice. I’ll definitely keep things playful and positive on the next interaction. You’re right about making the risk to lose her. Of course, I would rather not risk anything but I suppose that is the only way to get anywhere with this girl.
Anonymous Guy,
Glad to hear you are taking the steps to become better with women. It is a learning process. You sound pretty determined and have no doubt you will be successful. Good luck in your journey!
Blondie,
I’m not sure it was so much a timing issue as it was a chickening out issue:) I’m actually planning on meeting up with her for drinks some time this week. So, having the one on one could be just what the doctor ordered. I’ll keep y’all posted.
-Matt
Sounds like you were too busy trying to figure out how dialated her pupils were to make a move.
Never heard of that one…
Hey man;
Sorry for the quasi-comment spam, I couldn’t find your contact info on your blog. I fully expect you to delete this after reading it or moderate it from ever appearing.
I’m trying to spread the word about a site I’ve been writing for the past few months. It’s called How to be an all-around cooler person. The url is http://www.howtobecooler.com
It’s a bunch of free articles. It’s not so much about seduction as basic social skills and getting along with people. It’s definately useful for a certain breed of community guys though. If you had to put a label on it, it would veer strongly towards the natural game/inner game side of things.
Not asking for a link or anything, just trying to do a little each day to let people know my site is out there.
Cheers,
Chris
Interesting post. Dido Girl is nice. =)
Don’t worry. You’ll kiss her next time. Hopefully.
By the way, thanks for commenting on my blog. Come back anytime. =)
Brilliant blog geezer!
No One in Particular,
Good point, however, the dilated pupil thing is a signal of attraction. Although the problem is that alcohol also causes dilation, so is not as reliable as other indicators of interest.
Chris,
I’ll leave your comment up for now. I checked out your site and there is some useful things there, although a lot of it is a repeat of most other seduction/dating/social dynamics based websites.
Also, you made me realize that my email is no where to be found on the site. I’ll have to remedy that.
By the way, I wouldn’t get into the habit of comment spamming. It doesn’t look good for you or your site. There are better ways to promote your site than spamming.
Gabriela,
Thanks for the vote of confidence. I liked your blog and will be sure to swing by and visit every so often.
Gentleman-Hobbs,
Thanks man!! Although, is 27 that old that I’m considered a “geezer?”
-Matt Savage
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