the seductive life

Being on the Internet, we often finds ourselves consumed in red hot debates over topics which make a lot of assumptions. When non-agreed upon assumptions are made by multiple parties, then it’s no surprise that completely different one-sided conversations are taking place. A good example of this is when males and females discuss various view points on dating and relationships. Of course, one of my favorite one-sided debates is when discussing the difficulties of nice guys.

When a girl says she likes nerdy nice guys, what she really means is a guy with some minor nerd like characteristics yet has his shit together. For example, perhaps he plays a lot video games or tinkers with computers, but he’s also a decent looking guy who cleans up well. He could also be a really good provider and a down to earth family man, just the right type of guy that women will go for after slutting themselves out in their early twenties. There’s a reason that nice guys finish last, it’s because they’re the safe bet when the biological time bomb starts ticking, so long as he doesn’t dress like Tron.

Now here’s the thing, most guys will be thinking that they just have to clean themselves up and go for the good looking but slightly nerdy style and I’ll get the chicks, right? The problem is that this look is still coming from a place of the boring status quo and unless you take the ‘Geek Chic’ look to an extreme then you’re still just an average Joe.

I’ve been looking into a lot of Brad P’s stuff lately and recently bought his Fashion Bible which is quite eye opening so far. However, one of his big concepts that he talks about is “sexy stereotyping.”

Sexy Stereotyping assumes that when women first meet a man, there is an automatic and unconscious judgment taking place which stereotype that man within seconds. These judgments are based on external appearances. It’s not to say that a guy can’t attract women with his personality but it makes the process so much easier when your external appearance is automatically communicating that you are a high value man.

It’s for the above reasons that I’ll be doing a bit of a self makeover for the summer. Not that my style right now isn’t good; it’s light years better than my college days. Can you believe that I used to go out to the bars wearing used running sneakers, loose fitting baggy jeans and a white Fruit of the Loom T-Shirt? I know, it’s no wonder why I never got laid in college, sheesh!

Anyhow, my next series of posts will document my current fashion makeover using Brad P’s sexy stereotyping concepts and will also do a more formal review of his Fashion Bible for those interested.

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